The Comparison Trap #2

Self-Confidence Tips #2

The quickest way to plummet your own self-esteem and self-confidence is to compare yourself to others.

Recognise that everyone is different, we are all on different stages of our journey’s, and every person’s life has value. Remember that every single person is doing the best they can with the knowledge, awareness, conditioning and experience they have right now.

When you compare yourself to others, and judge others, you have no time to love yourself or them.

When we judge, we are highlighting our own insecurities and fears. Have you ever heard of the quote,

“Great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, and small minds discuss people.”

~ Eleanor Roosevelt.

Although I don’t agree with this quote completely, as I think it is important to discuss events, I do agree with ‘small minds discuss people’. Gossiping. Rumours. Judging. Hearsay. Negativity. You get the gist?

And trying to dim someone else’s light will never make yours shine any brighter. It will never give you more self-belief or self-confidence.

So how do we get out of the comparison trap?

Next time you go to judge someone, say to yourself “I love and approve of myself”. This way you are giving the person you are about to judge, and giving yourself, permission to be ourselves. This fosters our own self-confidence and self-belief.

We can concentrate on our own unique special and individual qualities. We can remind ourselves of what we are good at, and what positive attributes we have in our character and our personality. This could be hobbies, things we love doing, our ability to make others feel good about themselves, or our caring natures ……  there are too many to list, and only you will know what yours are. Everyone has special qualities that make them unique and valuable as a person.

We can also let go of outcomes and not take life so seriously. Lighten up a bit, and remember everyone’s journey is individual, and that we are exactly where we are meant to be in our lives right now, and embrace that. Set goals if you need to give yourself achievements to work towards, they don’t need to be huge, just little goals that you can tick off your list every day that will help you to increase your own self-confidence.

The trick is, the more we love and approve of ourselves, the more love and acceptance we show our-self and others. The more we believe in ourselves, the less time we have to worry and bitch about what others are doing with their own lives. The more we love and approve of ourselves, the happier we will feel within ourselves and the happier our lives will be.

I wish you all an abundance of self-confidence and self-love,

Love Alison, Confidently Introverted xx

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